Many people feel the most real discomfort at the suggestion of cunnilingus: morally or physically, due to upbringing, religious or other views. Historically, oral sex, including cunnilingus, has been condemned by different cultures and religions. For centuries, the idea that it was unnatural and contrary to divine laws was preached. It was believed that sexual contact through the mouth was not part of the reproductive act, but an extremely perverted activity.
Why do women refuse?
Statistically, cunnilingus is refused more often by women than by men, to the complete incomprehension of those of the latter who enthusiastically accept oral caresses. Therefore, scientists conducted surveys of thousands of ladies to clarify the reasons for the disappointing results. The picture turned out to be as follows. For a holistic understanding, data from other sources is also attached here.
One of the main reasons why women refuse such oral caresses is due to their psychological attitudes and barriers that do not allow them to fully relax and trust their partner. This may be due to upbringing, religion, modesty, or other personal problems. Many women have the attitude that the genitals are something inadmissible for such close contact, such as cunnilingus, and therefore such sexual manifestations can drive her into a frank stupor. It is necessary to talk, to develop trust and a different angle of perception of such a delicate topic.
The second reason – the fear of appearing before his man in such a frank form, although the woman will willingly give you a blowjob. Here we all need to somehow convey that the labia can look different, as well as the whole body. It's just a peculiarity of human structure, that's all it is. There is no “right” and “wrong” about exactly how the genitals look (unless we're talking about a disease, of course).
The third reason is the fear that their genitals aren't clean and foul smelling enough for this manipulation right now.
The usual shower before caressing easily solves this problem. And in general, Mother Nature has ordered so that the aroma of her vagina excites your sense of smell in the most pleasant way, creating and increasing arousal, inviting to mating. If this effect is absent, something is going wrong. The snag could be as much about her as it is about you.
If your partner not only maintains hygiene but also regularly visits a gynecologist to check for infections, then the problem is in you. More specifically, your perception of that particular girl. It is very likely that you simply do not love her enough, as the scent of the beloved cannot leave a man indifferent. Physical rejection of her odor is a signal that soon you will begin to irritate and other little things, like her remarks, driving style, clothes and so on. There's reason to wonder.
Female intimate odor is not a nasty odor. A vagina smells like a healthy vagina. This is normal and natural.
The fourth reason is, unfortunately, your complete profanity about oral caresses. Once convinced that you do not know much about it, a woman will rarely agree to give it another chance. Unless you come to her with this book.
