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– Is it important to develop accounts on other social networks?

– Let me put it this way: social media is becoming increasingly dominant. This platform is doing everything it can to overshadow others. Each month—or even each quarter—new features are added..

CHAPTER 4:

How to Explain It All to Your Family

One of the most challenging steps for a leader is helping family members let go of their memories of your past failures.

In my experiences working with hundreds of students in my "The Royal Charisma" program, I’ve identified significant limitations and beliefs that hinder individuals from embracing their leadership potential.

Fear.

Many of you harbor a deep-seated fear of being leaders. This fear often traces back to childhood, where the belief may take root that being a leader means being a bad mother, a bad wife, or a bad husband. There’s an underlying anxiety that if you step into a leadership role, you’ll face judgment—whether regarding your parenting, your relationship with your partner, or even from those closest to you who may feel neglected. This is a powerful and widespread belief.

Some people have even expressed to me that leaders come across as rude, soulless, and arrogant, seeing only their goals rather than the people around them. There’s a common sentiment that money changes people for the worse. In my work helping individuals build their personal brands, I’ve noticed that when my students begin to experience financial success, they often reflect, “When I have money, I start to believe I can manage everything on my own, without a partner.” This newfound confidence can lead to thoughts like, “Why do I need a companion when I can achieve anything by myself?” These feelings can spark shame; there’s often a contradiction that arises: “I want to be a leader, but I feel ashamed of the thoughts I have.” Despite our best efforts, the opinions of others can exert a heavy influence.

I frequently receive questions about how to overcome the fear of communicating with others. How does one silence that fear? If I had a magic phrase to instantly dissolve these anxieties, I would share it with you immediately and skip writing this chapter altogether. I’ve grappled with these challenges myself. I’ve faced criticism from loved ones when I dared to pursue my own path rather than succumbing to their expectations.

What I want to offer you are the practices I’ve developed from my own journey. I firmly believe that the most valuable insights are those born from personal experience, rather than those easily found on the first pages of Google. This is why I lead intensives and programs with such passion—you deserve the depth that comes from authentic experience.

Even as adults, our parents often monitor our lives, including our activities on social media. This can stifle our leadership aspirations when family members scrutinize and sometimes voice their disapproval of what we share online. If you’ve encountered this, you are certainly not alone. For our parents, we remain their children—the ones they cared for and scolded. When we begin to shine on platforms or share our journeys on social media, it can create confusion for them. They often wish for stability in our lives; for older generations, any change can evoke discomfort and even fear for our safety. They feel it is their duty to protect us, and they will step in with all their might.