Do not keep grudges because you are in pain, but you are ignorant; since once you are over it, if you are not in pain, it bothers them more.
But it is logical that you cannot be sitting down for dinner or lunch with someone that is always disrespecting you. And if you do it just for work, and because there is no other choice, under very strict rules and guidelines in which you control the situation and do not affect you.
Many times there are toxic relationships, because the desire to fulfill social roles can lead us to fall into the hands of toxic people. They appear because of insecurity, low self-esteem, or because society expects you to play certain roles: to get married, to have children, a partner, etc.
It seems that if you are not with someone the world will end. You can end up giving in to everything a partner asks of you for fear of loneliness. There are also people in your partner who are used to being in charge and the other party to obeying. There are many cases of couples who don't love their partner, they just want to exercise control to an unhealthy extent.
There are relationships based on blackmail, lies, fear, and the idealization of the person, whether at work, in the family, or affectively.
But in your free time and your private life, toxic people: out! It is vital to both your physical and mental health. Taking distance and staying away from complicated people improves your health. Because, although it may not seem like it, there are people who are indifferent to the needs of others.
The question is: how do we protect ourselves from these toxic people? Since relating to them makes us suffer, we must know what our limits are, what we do not want and mark them.
What the toxic person expresses is not your way of thinking and you don't have to make it your own, you have to value yourself. You have to remember all the achievements you have had and all that you have reached up to now, since self-esteem and confidence will be decisive. And above all, you must not think about it constantly, you have to focus on your things because they are more important of course!
Because toxic people do not change if they are rewarded for not changing, with others often being guilty for letting them be toxic. Don't hate them for being toxic because you only poison yourself with their toxicity, so forgive, but don't forget.
Take enough distance to improvise, adapt and overcome the obstacles, the toxic sensations that you have long believed and felt were your fault.
From now on there is a whole world ahead of you and a new path that you must explore and get to know.
Also discover how you really are with your mistakes and qualities, but above all, what you must learn is to love and value yourself.
Believing in yourself and your values is not bad, it's a plus. What others believe or what they impose on you, as long as it is negative for your physical and mental health, prevents you from developing as a person and a human being, from standing on your own feet, from working and being independent; it means that they unbalance you, are toxic and should be out of your life.
This does not mean that you should forget that all people feel the same vibrations or energies; because the same person or persons remember that they do not treat everyone the same. They often make a difference. And you should not fall into the loop of wondering why, or what their reason is. Just walk away as quickly and calmly as possible.
